Personal Power - Day Three

I actually did this yesterday but didn't have time to post it in the evening before rushing off to Glasgow... well I rushed, perhaps the train didn't.

I've been keeping up with every task I set myself in day one and day two and it feels fantastic! I feel empowered!

DAY 3

Reminders: To create results in your life you need to use your own personal power and to take action…. To be clear in what outcome we want... to follow through with action.. and to notice if it’s working and be flexible. Fear of pain is what stops people taking action. The need to avoid pain drives people, as does the desire for pleasure.

Neuro-associations are what determines our behaviour. Like with chocolate you know eating it will make you fat but it will be pleasurable to eat. The meaning which we associated an action determines our behaviour. If you think someone hitting you means they love you then you would gain pleasure from that. If losing weight means pain, are you going to do it on a consistent basis? No. That means we need to change our associations.

Take starting a business as an example. If you haven’t done it it’s because you associate too much apin with it… failure… hassle… too much time… not ability. To create a successful business you need to change what it’d mean to you so that when you think about it, picture it and talk about it you feel really great and positive and feel pleasure about starting it and pain if you don’t start it. This is neuro-associative conditioning.

Thinking positively doesn’t change your life. Doing things does. We need to change our conditioned responses to our environment. Adverts programme us… hence we associate certain slogans with brands because we’re programmed to. These neuroassociations direct our lives and control our motivation levels. Every action, big and small, has an effect on our lives. Making simple changes and what we link to things changes our behaviour and our lives. Everything we think and do is a cause set in motion… as is everything we don’t think or do. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

For every result you get in your life you begin to create a direction. It is important to decide what you really want out of life and then we need to think what we need to do to accomplish this and what we need to do on a daily basis… starting now. Seeing the impact of every action we take and don’t take is the key to our life. The past does not determine the future.

When we come across something we don’t like we need to think about how we feel when we think of something else. Link the two in some way. It doesn’t mean you get distracted and think about the thing you like.

Some of us link giving as painful and others link pleasure to it. You can either end up selfish or as a martyr. If you give give give and refuse to let others give back to you then you are being selfish and denying them the pleasure that can be found in giving.

Why do people take cocaine? It’s a $100 billion per year industry in America and is an epidemic. It gives immediate pleasure so why don’t people take it? Because they know enough to link it to ultimate pain. We’ve been pre-programmed our whole lives to have the correct associations with how horrible a lifestyle of taking drugs is.

Alcohol is another drug used by many as they associate it with pleasure. That is learned pleasure. Very few people enjoy alcohol the first time they try it. The majority of car accidents that result in death are related to alcohol use. Most people have a negative association with drink driving so don’t do it. People drink because they see ‘cool’ people doing it and they role-model themselves on those doing it.

Why do we some people smoke? Someone trained them to link pleasure with it. Again, nobody tries a cigarette for the first time and thinks it’s lovely. They watch adverts, movies etc and see celebrities and friends doing it which convinces them it’s cook despite the fact that it stinks and it kills you.

Sometimes are neuroassociatens drives us even when they make no sense whatsoever. Look at Kamikaze pilots in the world war. They were programmed to think that death would result in ultimate pleasure by honouring their families, going to a better place etc.

Kids love attention. If they don’t get positive attention they act bad to get negative attention because they see attention as something pleasurable.

When we remember one thing it reminds us of something else because we have networks of associations. Sometimes they disempower us and sometimes they have nothing to do with reality.

You need to change associations to change your life. You have to advertise to your own mind.

Genius is focusing your action every day in a specific way to get the result your committed to and if every day you practice and make more distinctions that gives you the power.

What negative assocations do you have holding you back and what positive ones do you need?

1) Write down three neuroassociations that have positively shaped your destiny.
2) Write down three neuroassociations that have disempowered you in shaping your destiny.

1) Giving to others is pleasurable.
Smoking is disgusting.
Alcohol only causes problems.
2) Success will be painful and require more effort than I can give
Eating lots of food brings pleasure/comfort/love
Public speaking or speaking to people I don’t know will result in pain/embarrassment.